Research shows that using “I” statements minimizes hostility and defensiveness—and leaves things open for discussion. For example, instead of saying, “You never listen to me,” say “I’m feeling unheard when I communicate with you.”
What is Speaking Life? - Part III: Through My Mate's Eyes
In my last blog, I mentioned 5 Clear Communication steps summarized as being quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry. Focusing on the middle step is rare. It kind of dissolves between listening with haste and delaying ire. Most think it’s a nice way of saying put a clamp on it, which it does, but not just verbally but also cognitively. Stop your inner tapes while your partner is sharing, complaining, pleading, or pontificating.
Contemporary Christian Marriage: Part Two
Contemporary Christian Marriage: Part One
Increasing Marital Intimacy - 6 Doors to Open for “Into-Me-See”
Dialoging as a Couple
Hear Me Out!
Top 3 Things Couples Say in their 1st Session
Tracy and I have been seeing spouses individually for quite some time, but it wasn’t until early this year we started seeing them together, as a husband+wife team. This makes for a more cohesive treatment plan, but it also enables us to compare notes/impressions and using our different perspectives find tools to assist our couples.